kgooden1's Notizen, 25 Mrz 24

I think that's an absolutely wonderful thought and a good commitment not just for those around you but for yourself as well. I'm not as good at the practice of this is I am preaching it's merits but I believe that stress is terrible for us all impacts our sleep or weight, as well as the state our of inner being and how we treat others. I too am on a journey to hopefully make myself a more positive and happy person I feel that since my diagnosis that I've gotten bogged down with too many issues because of pain and exhaustion that I would have never given any merit to before. Sometimes it's good to step back and to refocus on our lives. The Journey of 10,000 miles starts with a single step and your doing great you've taken this step so be proud keep putting one foot in of the other foot until you reach the end of your journey. 

Wonderful. A time well spent. My therapist taught me the S.T.O.P. Method when faced with situations that would make me react in anger. It stands for: S — Stop, or pause T — Take a breath O — Observe the body, thoughts, feelings, emotions, and physical sensations P — Proceed with more awareness Really helped me process old wounds and move forward with them. 

thiccmami,, thank you for the Acronym, it definitely will be used. I am very grateful for the support I am receiving from all of you. Thank you, and have a beautiful day! ☺️ 

Thats a great way to look at the dishes scenario. I too wish to be less angry in that situation but when people have been home all day (even for days at a time) and consistently pile more dishes into the sink its hard not to get upset. Now I just take a walk, it helps sometimes. 

@Thiccmami I’ll borrow that mnemonic too. Thanks for sharing it! 

🕊💙 welcome to your journey 

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." - Philippians 4:6-7... P = Pray and Petition with Thanksgiving; then Proceed 

I don't want to write you an essay but it'll probably be long. I went back throughout a few of your other post. I love your spirit and how you're trying to grow into a better person. Something I've found over the years. I'm still working on myself is this. Anger really hurts you more than the person you're mad at. I know that's easy to say. But it's really true. Why carry all of that around? When you can just let it go. Now one thing I will say though. Whoever is there should be helping you with the dishes, trash, washing clothes. Or whatever needs to be done. I believe in teamwork makes the dream work. I preach it to my kids and I try to lead by example. Now I wasn't always that way. My wife would always tell me if you would just help out more. It would create more time for us. Also lessen her stress! So to me it was a win win for everyone. You shouldn't be expected to do everything. Now finding a way to convey that in a friendly demeanor is the real challenge. Keep doing the best you can! Make little hints! Or just let him/them know how much it would mean to you and your sanity If they could just help a little more😂Just my 2 cents worth here. As a man who owned a business and didn't understand the gravity of what a stay at home mom actually dealt with day to day. I've now been one for nearly 7 years. Raising kids and keeping a house up is a lot of work. Anyways sorry for the rambling! I use to think she was an angry person. But she was crying out for a little more help. I got the signs and I've worked on myself to be a better significant other, father, friend, etc. Hopefully at some point you'll get the extra help you need and probably deserve. 

In our house, we have had our own struggles with anger. For us, Stoic philosophy has really been helpful 

I had similar issues. I recommend the book Awareness by Anthony De Mello. It's a quick read and very helpful. It literally changed my life. 

Oooh - I have experienced this too! I was so frustrated and sick of feeling like I was the only one doing anything! I found some of the challenges in FS (declutter, etc.) to be helpful and rewarding - plus, I had a clean house and I could relax knowing it was clean if only for a few minutes. =p Today I have done two loads of clothes, one and a half load of dishes all while working my 9-5 job from home (I just start my day early and skipped lunch due to deadlines). My significant other has a back injury so he sat on the couch most of the time. All we can do is what is within our control and we might as well make sure we keep ourselves happy! Cheers to a clean house and peaceful family memories!  

I found that finally forcefully expressing my displeasure (read throwing things into the sink while saying I am sick to death of coming home to this mess every day!!! LOUDLY worked well! I vented, the message was received and things improved 😂 

My lovely wife has a simple rule. If the kitchen isn't clean, she isn't cooking. We have a 16-, 18- and 20-year-old still at home. No need to get angry, she is always happier to order out for herself. 

Yippee, I couldn't do that, but I can't say that I did laugh with glee for a for a few minutes 🤣... I love it...  

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